A successful relationship can be both the greatest and most difficult achievement a man can have. It’s not something served on a silver platter for most couples — least of all those who have been together for 10 years or more. When it’s been that long, we all need a little bit of help to keep the spark alive. Here are 7 things to understand a successful relationship.
Successful Relationship | Keeping the Fire Burning
1. Independence is Necessary
A wise man once said, “If you can’t love yourself, how can you love someone else?” A successful relationship knows this adage to be true.
Independence, or being totally fine by yourself, is the first step to building a long lasting relationship. You can’t be totally dependent on one person for your happiness. When you are happy and confident being by yourself, you know your limits and your strengths. You can make someone else happier when you are confident with yourself!
2. Be a Good Listener
Being someone’s husband is to be that person’s shoulder to lean on. Support is one of the major components of a strong and successful relationship. Listening to your partner is a skill most men seem to neglect.
However, you mustn’t forget that listening and hearing are two very different things. A simple way to “listen” is following this process: hear what they’re saying, look into their eyes, repeat or paraphrase what they said, and reassure them. Pretty soon, you’ll find yourself becoming a more dependable and loving husband!
3. Communicate Well and Often
— Ben Phillips (@TEACHfaithHome) August 8, 2017
Marriage counselors, clergymen, and people in successful relationships all say one thing, “Communication is key.” For all intents and purposes, they are correct. Clear communication is an absolute need in a relationship.
If you’ve gone ten years without communicating properly, you’re in bad shape. Learn to communicate with your spouse and let the intentions of both parties be heard. Words left unsaid should never be brought to bed!
You will never, ever change a person — full stop. No matter how much you try and change someone, they won’t. Unless, of course, they want to. Acceptance is definitely one of the biggest keys to a successful relationship.
Accepting a person for who they are — their faults, quirks, strengths, annoying qualities — isn’t only a requirement, it’s a responsibility as well. You have to know and accept everything about your spouse for your relationship to blossom and be successful.
5. Agreeing to Disagree
Acceptance is hard, we know. However, acceptance is never 100%. Sometimes, it’s best to agree to disagree. A successful relationship between two people requires accepting each other’s faults and the fact that there will be disagreements.
These disagreements may be irreconcilable and completely divergent of each other’s beliefs, but it happens. Agreeing to disagree is key to a flourishing relationship and will keep you and your partner going for a long time.
6. Keep Dating
Not other people, of course. The chase should never end at the altar if you want a successful relationship! Keep stoking the fire that burns in your relationship by occasionally taking them out on a date. A nice restaurant, an old haunt, or maybe a week in Bali can do wonders for the relationship. Stagnation and settling is the enemy of a potentially successful relationship.
7. Never Take Them for Granted
This should go without saying. Most men would think that when they finally say “I do,” that’s it. No more work needs to be done. They settle into a routine, forgetting to appreciate what their partner does for them.
Let me tell you: No one wants to be taken for granted, especially your partner. Don’t forget to appreciate the little things they do. If she packed you lunch, bring her something home in return. If she asks you if her outfit looks fine, let her know she looks ravishing. Never let the security of marriage lull you into taking your partner for granted.
Here’s Simon and Martina with some great tips to keep your marriage happy!
A successful relationship is never easy to achieve. Keeping your partner happy requires a lot of work, and it’s work you’ll need to keep doing in the decades to come. In all honesty, it’s all about how much you love them, and how unconditional that brand of love is. We hope these tips can help you through another 10 years of marriage!
Tell us your secret techniques to keeping the missus happy in the comments!