Building a healthy relationship is one of our goals here at A Man’s Quest. In order to build love and relationships, it’s good to watch out for the warning signs that signify a bad one. The biggest red flag for relationship problems that couples should watch out for, stems from excessive smartphone usage while together. Oddly but not surprisingly enough, smartphones are leading the way in causing serious relationship divide between couples.
Relationship Problems | How Smartphones Can Get In The Way
The behavior, which has been dubbed “pphubbing” or partner phone snubbing, already affects almost half of all relationships and causes conflict for one in every five couples, according to a recently published study.”
Relationships are built and strengthened through constant communication, but have you found yourself scrolling through social media while your loved one sits next to you trying to share her day? Have you been on the receiving end of being “phubbed”? Feelings get hurt, couples feel insignificant, which means conflict is right around the corner. Mobile phones give us the convenience to communicate with our loved ones regardless of distance, yet keeps us from doing so when they’re just an arm’s length away.
Hooked on Our Smartphones https://t.co/AUH9pTx3qZ Guilty as charged. 🙂 Hate to see couples eating dinner while looking at cell phones
— Andrew Stivelman (@Diabeartes) January 16, 2017
In a recent study, people who feel they are being “phubbed,” especially in romantic relationships, tend to argue more and have more conflict resulting in lower relationship satisfaction. Understandably, everyone is busy with work, friends want to hang out and unwind…it can be difficult to notice the effects of too much smartphone usage with your significant other.
Keep in mind that relationships are built and strengthened through constant communication. Who would’ve thought modern technology would eventually become a ruining factor in this area? It’s ironic how mobile phones are made to give us the convenience to communicate with our loved ones regardless of distance; yet we see couples on a date, who just can’t get their attention off their smartphones. Today you see it everywhere: you go inside a restaurant and couples everywhere are busier on their phones than talking to each other. This seemingly harmless smartphone activity can be a sign of deeper relationship problems like poor communication.
To build a healthy relationship, spend your precious time off the phone when you are together. Get into a conversation. Listen to her joys and troubles live. Communicate with one another by talking.
So what can you do?
Set aside a time in the day where phones are not allowed. Use this time to talk about your day, hear about hers, and connect with each other through healthy verbal means.
When you’re not on the hours of banned phone use, take the time to call her. It’s the easy route to text message her simple things, but don’t give in. Take the 5 minutes and call her, and always end the conversation with a proper goodbye that makes her feel special such as:
- Miss you
- Can’t wait to see you later
- I love you (if you’re in love)
Watch out for the signs of an unhealthy relationship by noticing the amount of phone time that is spent while you two are together. Address it, and propel forward.
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