A lot of things can seem so perfect online and in social media. Especially with online relationships where couples show what they want everyone to think of them and not what they are. Contrary to popular belief, relationships on social media tend to deceive those witnessing and experiencing it at the same time. Next thing you know they post something sweet that one day and then they’ve broken-up the next.
Don’t be fooled by how social media makes it look so “perfect”. Come to grips as to how social media destroys relationships.
Here is an article from Today regarding the issue,
Online Relationships | How Social Media Makes it Look “Perfect”
We’ve all seen couples who seem perfect, both in real life and on social media. They hold hands, steal kisses, and gaze lovingly in each others’ directions. On social media, they’re constantly posting about how in love they are — with words, photos, and emojis. And yes, sometimes it can be a sign of legitimate happiness. But other times, the overt public displays of affection or social media PDA can be hiding an unraveling relationship. As the relationship plummets, the posts (by one or both members of the couple) can get even more clingy — as their self-esteem is often tightly wound up in the relationship.
1. Syrupy sweet posts
When I see posts like, “I know I have finally met the ONE and it feels so good after SO long! I love you my honeybee!” — and a couple has been on four dates — I know it might be a warning of trouble ahead. Or: “Having a great day with my soulmate! Best feeling ever!” Usually followed by dozens of hearts and angel emojis.
2. Mismatched affection
One of the lovers looks distant and not so happy about being photographed — repetitively (not just in one photo). Or one partner is tightly hugging the other, while the other just looks limp like a wet noodle.
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Social media has been a big part of our daily lives for more than a decade. There was a time when wanting to know a person would mean you’d have to personally ask people in order to get some information. If you didn’t have the guts to approach someone, well, you were never going to get to know them. The dream in your head would’ve always stayed a “what if.” But now, all you have to do these days is get the person’s name, search for them on Facebook, and bingo! If you’re lucky and the profile is set for public viewing, you can find out everything you want to know in less than a minute. It does sound like stalking, but think of it more as researching whether someone would be a good match!
Relationships, on the other hand, they are displayed on social media too! Which makes a lot of couples look like a match made in heaven. From the sweetest posts for their significant others to the most romantic couple photos, all seems to be happy and perfect in a social media relationship.
Unfortunately, not everything that’s visible to the naked eye is true. We all want to make things look great in our lives like we’re in complete control. That way, everyone thinks that much more of us. Most of the time, they hide the mess that it actually is.
There have to be some boundaries in place so as not to negatively affect the people we love and our relationships. You don’t have to hide your relationship, but keep it private, if possible. There’s a difference between privacy and secrecy. Telling people you’re in a relationship and making it known in your status feed is okay, but don’t share every single detail of it. The element of privacy between you and your partner is just what your relationship needs — especially in this age of social media.
Here’s a video on different people’s views about social media and relationships:
What are your views about social media and relationships? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Save your relationship if it’s going down the drain! See how smartphones can affect relationships here.