Some people discourage long distance relationships because it seems impossible to make it work. But as the saying goes: nothing worth having, comes easily. A long distance relationship is not easy by any means, but its also not impossible. Just because your significant other is halfway around the globe, doesn’t mean your relationship needs to end. Here are some tips to surviving a long distance relationship.
Long Distance Relationships: It’s Not Impossible
There’s no question that long distance dating is a challenge, especially if you’re oceans apart from your significant other. All relationships require compromise and lots of work, and this is especially true for long distance relationships. But don’t give up hope, there are proven ways to sustain and grow a relationship that has miles in between. Here’s a list of those strategies on how to date long distance.
Communication is extremely essential and one of the golden keys to a lasting relationship. Learning how to communicate effectively especially in long distance relationship is crucial and it can hinder the unnecessary arguments. If your relationship is a courtroom, communication is the judge, the jury, and the executioner who has the final say whether you should proceed or not or if the relationship lives or dies. Regular communication is a must and it is all made easy by technological advancements. Whether you prefer telephone calls, video chatting or text messages, keeping in touch with your loved ones can definitely strengthen your relationship.
Well, you don’t actually need to communicate 12 hours a day just to keep your relationship going. You don’t have to compensate the distance by talking all the time. Your partner may feel you are overly possessive and sooner or later they might fall out of love. Talking all the time can be an overkill but the lack of communication will prey on insecurities. You need to figure out or come up with your ideal communication style. And you also need to know each other’s schedules so you can drop a call or a text message at the right time.
2. Establish Trust
Trust is one of the most important things you need to establish as a couple. When you trust each other, you’ll have the confidence in your partner and you will feel emotionally safe. If trust is missing, your relationship becomes intolerable. You’ll have continuous battles versus paranoia and it will lead to your imminent breakup. You don’t have to obsessively check his or her Facebook page every time or fret when they don’t respond to your messages as quickly as you want. Relationships that are not anchored in authentic trust cannot survive rocky trials especially if you’re in an LDR where jealousy, insecurity, and envy is magnified. With trust, there is freedom and security to enjoy and experience the full potential of the love you have for each other.
3. Keep It Fresh All The Time
Renew that loving feeling as often as you can by flirting and doing the things you did back when your relationship was new. Talk dirty to each other or send texts filled with sexual innuendos and for sure it will keep the flames burning. And other than stimulating messages, you also need to be creative and spontaneous in finding ways to show affection. You can go old school and write her letters, poems or send flowers and simple gifts. Find ways to do things together even when you’re apart. Play online games, watch a documentary or sing to each other on Skype. It has been said that couples who do innovative things are happier.
4. Deal with Fights and Emotions Effectively
Arguments are sometimes unavoidable but going to bed angry can only make things worst. Disputes can be instantly augmented because of the thousands of miles between the two of you. It only harbors resentment, causes harmful and cumulative effects that will make it harder to have a fresh start the next day. You may not always resolve it before bedtime but at least have an agreement with your partner that you will talk and work it out the next day. Anger, as we know it, does not only harm you emotionally but also physically. It will affect the quality of your sleep which is extremely vital to have a good health.
5. Learn To Live Alone
Dealing with emotions when you’re away from your partner can be very tough but you need to learn how to live alone. Someone said that if you want to live together, you need to learn how to live apart first. You don’t have to let your world revolve around your partner. You can spend time with your family and friends and build a life outside of your partner. Being too dependent on your partner may push him or her to the verge of giving up, it is the kiss of death to a relationship. Remember, there are a lot of things you can do that doesn’t involve your partner.
6. Make Visits
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Everybody who’s engaged in a long distance dating knows visits are the highlights of their relationships. It is important to talk about future visits so you can have something to look forward to. After all those waiting and abstinence, you will finally have the chance hold and touch each other. The level of intimacy of doing these things for people in a long distance relationship is much higher compared to the ones who are always together. I guess Marvin Gaye’s songs will be on top of your playlist every time you’re together. And before the end of every visit, you can plan when the next visit will be. It is also the time where you can talk about moving in together but don’t push for a commitment if you’re not yet ready.
7. Engage in Long Distance Activities
You don’t have to spend all your long distance time talking, you can spend time doing fun things together virtually! Here’s a great article on 105 long distance relationship activities that you can do with your significant other.
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The extra distance in a relationship can also make the ordinary and simplest things the sweetest like holding hands, smelling each other’s hair, talking and walking together or feeling each other’s touch. Yearning and looking forward to seeing each other again adds a little excitement and it also fuels the flame of your love. Yes, it is probably much difficult to handle a relationship like this but is also a rewarding one if you can maintain and keep it going. Love, trust, and respect are the main ingredients to a successful relationship regardless of the distance.
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