Ah the ignorance of youth. Everything is shiny and clean and beautiful, but it’s all an illusion! Do high school relationships last into marriage? Many teenagers sure would love to think so. While high schoolers would love to plan their future with their first love, there are some things they ought to know about high school relationships.
The Truth About High School Relationships
1. Dating pool in high school is pretty small
This means that people are willing to go out with someone just because of proximity or convenience. High school isn’t the ‘real world’, and you haven’t had the chance to mingle in a bigger pool before you’ve met your high school partner. Chances are pretty good that they’ll meet someone a lot more interesting when they get to college or start working.
2. The ‘first time’ isn’t as magical as you thought it would be
Teenagers get excited at the thought of losing their virginity with their partners. They’re thinking it will be really special. The truth is, it may not be as magical as you thought. Since you’re still young and exploring, it’ll probably even turn out to be awkward on the first try. Movies and pornography put an emphasis on what sex is supposed to be. The truth is, you’ll figure it out as you go, and comparing yourself to what you see on the screen is setting yourself up for failure.
3. Only about half of high schoolers have had sex
High schoolers tend to compare experiences with each other — a lot. That includes relationships. Hearing other students talk about what they do with their partners might make you believe everybody’s into it. You shouldn’t be feeling the pressure to do it just because you think everyone does it. The truth is, they’re probably lying. Not everyone is actually having sex at that time in their lives, and you shouldn’t compare yourself to anyone else.
4. There is only a 54% chance that a teenage marriage will last 10 years
No matter how in love you are, you ought to hold your horses when it comes to thinking about marriage. People who marry in their teen years are less likely to have their marriage last 10 years. You may feel tired from everyone telling you that you are ‘too young’, but that’s the truth. Marriage requires a higher level of maturity you gain from experiences as you grow older.
5. You will still face lots of changes individually, which can make you fall out of love
In the high school stage, reasons to be attracted to a person can be as shallow as simply considering their looks or their popularity. Later in life, your priorities change, and pretty faces won’t be enough to keep you interested. Realizing you’re incompatible with your high school sweetheart later in life can happen as you grow up. It’s when you grow up that you realize the truths and myths of finding true love.
6. Less than 2% of marriages are to a high school sweetheart
No high schooler in love will want to hear this, but chances of marriage to a high school sweetheart are pretty slim. Again, growing up can make you change priorities and interests, which can make you more compatible with someone other than your high school partner.
7. High school relationships gives you a blueprint of what you don’t like in a relationship
You are most rebellious and selfish in your teenage years. So, when you find something you don’t like in a partner, you’re bound to give it up than try to compromise. These collective experiences of high school break ups will guide you in knowing what you don’t like in a partner when you start searching for one when you get older.
For more truths about high school relationships, check out this video uploaded by Hannah Jean:
Studies may go against the odds of you and your high school sweetheart, but remember that each story is different. Still, it would be wise not to be too serious too soon, especially when you still have so much ahead of you. So whether a high school relationship is worth it or not is pretty much up to an individual.
What’s your story with your high school sweetheart? Let us know in the comments!
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